There is a tension many of us live in but rarely name…
We want God…
We want His promises…
We want His power…
And we want them without pain.
Not because we’re shallow…
Not because we’re faithless…
But because we’re human…
We don’t always get to choose what we want.
We would rather have:
- breakthrough without bruising
- promise without process
- resurrection without waiting through Friday
That doesn’t make us weak…
It makes us honest.
But Scripture keeps telling the story a different way.
Not as punishment…
Not as cruelty…
But as formation through faithfulness.
It invites us into a journey where worship sometimes happens while wounded…
Where the pit comes before the palace…
Where the clay is marred before it is shaped…
Where suffering does not cancel calling—it clarifies it.
The psalmist looked back and said,
“It was good for me that I was afflicted…”
Paul echoed the same truth from another angle—
that suffering produces perseverance…
perseverance produces character…
and character produces hope…
That kind of hope doesn’t come from avoidance.
It comes from endurance.
This is not a theology that chases pain.
It is a faith that refuses to waste it.
Some of the most honest worship you will ever offer
will not come from victory…
but from vulnerability.
From praising God when the wound is still tender…
From trusting Him when the promise feels delayed…
From believing that what feels bad now
can still be used for good later.
Calling bad things “good” doesn’t mean they were right.
It means God was faithful in them.
It means you survived what should’ve destroyed you.
It means you learned what comfort never taught you.
It means the process did something to you
that arrival alone never could.
The truth is…
many of us want the crown without the cross…
but Scripture insists the order matters.
Friday comes before Sunday.
The pit comes before the palace.
The pressing comes before the pouring.
And somehow—
by grace—
what we never would have chosen
becomes the very thing God uses to prepare us.
That is the power…
to look back at the hard places
and say…
It hurt…
but it wasn’t wasted.
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Pastor Charles E. Howse Jr
Beth-El Baptist Church
Wholeness 4 LIFE
Charles Howse
Loving The Unlovable:A Love Without Limits

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